Husbands And Wives
Heart to Heart

The longer we are married, the more complicated life seems to become, making intimacy more difficult. With the additional responsibilities incurred with the taking on of the church and the increase in our business, all of our time seems to be consumed with duty, responsibility, and work, work, work. Not that any of these are bad, quite the contrary, all are necessary to the life of God’s servants; however, it should not eliminate our duty to one another as husbands and wives. With this said, let me just interject that Jon will wholeheartedly confess that it takes very little to make me happy—I am a very low maintenance wife; however, just recently I felt a deep need for some tender loving care.

      Jon seemed at a loss as to what to do. He prayed about it, and I prayed about it, until one afternoon while on the phone, I read him Ephesians 5:25,28,29: “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her…So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church.”

      On the morning of our 29th anniversary, Jon woke up early and cut grass from 6:30-9:30 so that he would be back in time to spend the day he had planned for us. He called and sang a little ditty that told me to put on my red shoes (I do not really have red shoes; it’s just a little song he sings when he’s taking me somewhere special), paint my nails, and get ready to go. He had ordered flowers to be delivered to my favorite restaurant; however, it was not open for lunch, so he had them in the van with his card. He first took me to a kitchen shop where he selected some very nice utensils and pans for me. From there he took me to Maggiano’s for lunch where we sat for hours talking. Afterwards he took me for a ride and then shopping for clothes, a purse, and jewelry (a bracelet that matched my wedding band). Even though he has never wanted me to cut my hair or have it colored, he made an appointment at a salon for just that—a cut and color. He not only took me but also sat beside me the entire two hours just like he used to with everything that we did. It was marvelous! And I can tell you that I feel very nourished and cherished!       Husbands, take it from another wife. Do yourself a great favor and take your wife out for a day of nourishing and cherishing. It will greatly bless you as well as your beloved wife.