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God says in Proverbs 14:1, “The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish tears it down with her own hands.” Have you ever really stopped to think about this? In my New Homeschoolers’ Seminar, I always emphasize this truth because I believe it foundational to everything that we do. For good or for evil, all of us are building for eternity because in our hands lies the power to build a living hell on sinking sand or a heavenly fortress upon the living rock. I can safely say that all of us desire the fortress on the rock, but I can also confidently say that most of us did not begin our marriages fully understanding our role as wives (and even now we do not understand our role). However, I also know for a fact that many of us are striving to do what God would have us to do. And although we may not have begun our marriages understanding God’s purpose for our lives, as we look to God to help us come into alignment with His will, He is so faithful to forgive and guide us.

How many of you started out like I did, expecting the man you married to be just like you, but, as the days passed, you wondered how deceived you could have been. Not only did he not think exactly like you or do things exactly like you did them, but also he didn’t even try to change his ways because you wanted him to. Boy, did that lack of understanding cause me a lot of disappointing and rather frustrating moments when things did not go exactly like I had thought they should.
 During several speaking engagements, Jon has told his audience that when we were first married, I told him to lead, follow, or get out of the way. He goes on to use this as an example of how important it is for husbands to know how to be a godly husband and how to lead.

Several weekends ago, Jedidiah asked Jon what he wanted him to know if Jon were to die tomorrow. One of the things I overheard Jon tell Jedidiah is that he wanted him to fully know God’s design for him as a husband so that he would be able to lead his wife according to God’s ways. Jon then proceeded to tell Jedidiah that he did not have a clue how to lead when he got married and that I would have followed if he had only known how to lead.

Sadly, many husbands would like to be the godly leaders God intended them to be if they only knew how. Yet they are having to break fallow ground because their own fathers did not teach them what God expected of them. So where does that leave most wives? Well, we can get disgusted with our husbands’ actions and fight them every step of the way, we can totally give up, or we can build our fortress upon the rock.

“Therefore everyone who hears these words of Mine and acts upon them, may be compared to a wise man who built his house upon the rock. And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew and burst against that house; and yet it did not fall, for it had been founded upon the rock. Everyone who hears these words of Mine and does not act on them, will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand. The rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and slammed against that house; and it fell—and great was its fall” (Matt. 7:24-27).

And after reading this verse in my seminar I proceed by saying, “For good or for evil, all of us are building our house because in our hands lies the power to build a living hell on shifting sand or a heavenly fortress upon the living rock. How can we build a fortress upon the rock? Proverbs 24:3,4 says, ‘By wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established; and by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches.’ How do we acquire this wisdom and understanding? By reading and acting upon the Word of God. For God tells us in Colossians 3:2, ‘Set your mind on the things above, not on the things of the earth.’ Colossians 3:17 says, ‘Whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus.’ And what are the keys to our success in accomplishing this? In Psalm 1:1-3, God says, ‘How blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked, nor stand in the path of sinners, nor sit in the seat of scoffers! But his delight is in the law of the Lord, and in His law he meditates day and night. He will be like a tree firmly planted by streams of water, which yields its fruit in its season and its leaf does not wither; and in whatever he does he prospers.’”

To build a house upon the rock, then, we must read His Word, meditate on it day and night, and act upon it. So what does God expect of us?

God’s Marvelous Plan for Man and Woman

Have you ever truly considered God’s marvelous plan for us as wives? God did not create us from dust as he did Adam, but, instead, He took one of Adam’s own ribs and lovingly transformed his bone into a beautiful woman whom He gave back to Adam to make him complete. A relationship like no other, the very first God created, was designed to bring sweet fulfillment and purpose to our lives. God created woman to be a helpmate to her husband, to honor and obey him, to bear his children, to keep his home, and to have and to hold an intimate, lifelong relationship with him all the days of his life. We were created to be a soul mate who shares our husband’s thoughts, his vision, his work, his burdens, his sorrows, his joys, indeed every event in his life. What an honorable and meaningful purpose we have been given. I still marvel at God’s magnificent wisdom and the depth of His love for us.

“Then the Lord God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.’ Out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the sky … but for Adam there was not found a helper suitable for him. So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and he slept; then He took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh at that place. The Lord God fashioned into a woman the rib which He had taken from the man, and brought her to the man. The man said, ‘This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.’ For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh” (Gen. 2:18-24).

Bone of my bone, flesh of my flesh, God causes the two to become one so that we may serve Him in unity. Just as God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit work together, we, too, are to work together as a team in building for the Kingdom. “For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them” (Eph. 2:10).

Jon always uses the analogy of workhorses for describing the significance of working together in a marriage because he remembers the horses his own father used when plowing their fields. So he always says, “If you yoke two horses that work together, they will plow straight furrows every time. However, if you yoke two horses together that pull against each other, you’ll never get any work done. And even if you yoke a rebellious horse to a steady, obedient one, you still cannot achieve straight rows. Couples must learn to work together if they want to accomplish God’s purpose for their lives.”

Marriage: A Solemn, Sacred Covenant Before the Lord

How many of us really considered the word “obey” in our marriage vows or what God meant when He created us to be our husband’s helpmate?

So let’s begin with the vow we took when we married our husbands. The following is taken from “The Form of Solemnization of Matrimony” found in The Book of Common Prayer, which was used both in the churches of England and in the churches in America. Although your pastor may not have added the last two paragraphs when marrying you, we believe them to be very significant in our understanding of our vows.

“Wilt thou have this Man to be thy wedded husband, to live together after God’s ordinance in the holy estate of Matrimony? Wilt thou obey him, and serve him, love, honor, and keep him in sickness and in health; and, forsaking all others, keep thee only unto him, so long as you both shall live?

“I … take thee … to be my wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love, cherish, and to obey, till death us do part, according to God’s holy ordinance; and thereto I give thee my troth.

“O eternal God, Creator and Preserver of all mankind, Giver of all spiritual grace, the Author of everlasting life; send thy blessing upon these thy servants, this man and this woman, whom we bless in thy Name; that, as Isaac and Rebecca lived faithfully together, so these persons may surely perform and keep the vow and covenant between them made, (whereof this Ring given and received is a token and pledge) and may ever remain in perfect love and peace together, and live according to thy laws; through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.

“O God of Abraham, God of Isaac, God of Jacob, bless these thy servants, and sow the seed of eternal life in their hearts; that whatsoever in thy holy Word they shall profitably learn, they may in deed fulfill the same. Look, O Lord, mercifully upon them from heaven, and bless them. And as thou didst send thy blessing upon Abraham and Sarah, to their great comfort, so vouchsafe to send thy blessing upon these thy servants; that they obeying thy will, and always being in safety under thy protection, may abide in thy love unto their lives’ end; through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen…. That they may see their children Christianly and virtuously brought up, to thy praise and honor; through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen…. O Lord, bless them both, and grant them to inherit thy everlasting kingdom; through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.”

Marriage is truly a solemn, sacred covenant that we make before the Lord, where we vow to obey, serve, love, honor, and keep our husbands. God takes covenants very seriously and so should we.

Submission to Our Husbands out of Honor for Our Lord

Let us carefully examine, then, just what God requires of us as wives in the following verses. “But I want you to understand that Christ is the head of every man, and the man is the head of a woman, and God is the head of Christ” (1 Cor. 11:3). Therefore, if Christ is the head of our husbands, let us not be so bold as to wrench God’s position from Him.

“For man does not originate from the woman, but woman from man; for indeed man was not created for the woman’s sake, but woman for the man’s sake” (1 Cor. 11:8,9). We were created for man’s sake! Noah Webster defines sake as “final cause or purpose.” Isn’t that neat?

“Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless. So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church, because we are members of His body. For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and shall be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. This mystery is great; but I am speaking with reference to Christ and the church. Nevertheless, each individual among you also is to love his own wife even as himself, and the wife must see to it that she respects her husband. Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother (which is the first commandment with a promise), so that it may be well with you, and that you may live long on the earth. Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord…. Not by way of eyeservice, as men-pleasers, but as slaves of Christ, doing the will of God from the heart. With good will render service, as to the Lord, and not to men, knowing that whatever good thing each one does, this he will receive back from the Lord…. Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of His might. Put on the full armor of God, so that you will be able to stand firm against the schemes of the devil. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the powers, against the world forces of this darkness, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places. Therefore, take up the full armor of God, so that you will be able to resist in the evil day, and having done everything, to stand firm. Stand firm therefore, having girded your loins with truth, and having put on the breastplate of righteousness, and having shod your feet with the preparation of the gospel of peace; in addition to all, taking up the shield of faith with which you will be able to extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. With all prayer and petition pray at all times in the Spirit, and with this in view, be on the alert with all perseverance and petition for all the saints” (Eph. 5:22-33; 6:1-4,6-8,10-18).

Did you notice that wives ought to be subject to their husbands in everything, yet how many of us justify our lack of compliance because our husbands may not be Christians, or because our husbands are not mature Christians, or because??? The worldly influences of our upbringing have powerfully perverted God’s design, yet God commands us: “Thou shalt make no other gods before me” (Ex. 20:3). This means no created image, no human, or no activity should take precedence over our duty to God, but it also means no thoughts that are antithetical to His will. So although we may not have graven images in our homes, we often forge many thoughts that become our gods because we choose to follow them instead of God Himself.

Notice in this verse that God also commands children to obey their parents. Now since God also commands us to obey our husbands, shouldn’t we as the adults be careful to set the example for our children so that they learn from our obedience the proper way to obey promptly and cheerfully? Wow, that really puts the pressure on us, doesn’t it? It is amazing that through training our own children, in many ways God is training us for our own good.

God is so good, though, to follow these verses with the means by which we can stand firm in righteousness. We are engaged in a battle, and it is imperative for us to put on the armor of God and keep it on as we do battle each day.

“In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior. Your adornment must not be merely external—braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God. For in this way in former times the holy women also, who hoped in God, used to adorn themselves, being submissive to their own husbands; just as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, and you have become her children if you do what is right without being frightened by any fear” (1 Pet. 3:1-6).

So regardless of whether our husbands are right or wrong, God tells us to obey. Why? Because He tells us to! Have you ever related submission with reverence for your heavenly Father? Wow! What an eye opener. As Christian women, whom do we serve? It is the Lord whom we serve.

“Wives, be subject to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord…. Whatever you do, do your work heartily, as for the Lord rather than for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of the inheritance. It is the Lord Christ whom you serve. For he who does wrong will receive the consequences of the wrong which he has done, and that without partiality” (Col. 3:18,23-25).

Submission Is Really Trusting and Obeying God

Yes, many wives have said, “But you do not know my husband,” yet what it boils down to is our obedience to our Lord. Is God our Lord? Then what does He require of us? Are we going to be obedient to Him or not? It has nothing to do with our husbands and everything to do with our willingness to be obedient to God. Besides, can we trust in our Lord and Master to deal with rebellion in our husband’s heart? Do we think that our Father who parted the Red Sea for His children, who provided manna from heaven for His children, who continually destroyed His children’s enemies, and who resurrected Jesus Christ for His children’s salvation is not completely able and completely trustworthy to deal with our husband’s heart? Not only this, but we miss a valuable opportunity for ourselves when we refuse to examine what God is trying to teach us in these situations. If we are to be Christlike, then we must allow difficult situations to mold us into obedient, patient, trusting creatures. “And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose” (Rom. 8:28).

There was a period in our lives when Jon was being very difficult, so in turn I refused to honor him, until one night the Lord really pressed down on me, making my heart grieve for the lack of honor that I was showing my husband. So I decided to apologize to Jon, only I convinced myself that I would not completely expose my heart to him since he had been so mean to me. God, however, felt very differently about the matter and let me know in no uncertain terms. For the moment that I reasoned with God that it was best not to completely repent, lightning literally struck our electric box on the outer wall of our house right next to where I was sitting, making such a horrific noise that I jumped in terror. It was then that I truly realized the danger in which I was placing myself by continuing to disrespect the man whom God had placed over me, the man He told me to honor.

So why should wives be subject to their husbands? “And be subject to one another in the fear of Christ” (Eph. 5:21). Knowing that it is God whom I ultimately served certainly changed my perspective in difficult times when it was hard for me to honor my husband.

“Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children; and walk in love, just as Christ also loved you and gave Himself up for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God as a fragrant aroma” (Eph. 5:1,2).

“Let love be without hypocrisy. Abhor what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor; not lagging behind in diligence, fervent in spirit, serving the Lord; rejoicing in hope, persevering in tribulation, devoted to prayer … bless and do not curse. Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep. Be of the same mind toward one another; do not be haughty … Do not be wise in your own estimation. Never pay back evil for evil to anyone. Respect what is right … be at peace … Never take your own revenge … Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good” (Rom. 12:9-21).

A Wise Woman Builds Up Her Husband

We can build up our husbands by believing in the power of God through prayer for them. For years Jon would always lament that God had given him such a passion for Him and His truth but had not gifted him with the ability to speak to crowds. One-on-one, Jon transformed many lives, but when it came to large groups of people, his message would just freeze up in his mind. Remember, Jon and I talk for hours on end each day, so I saw firsthand the passion he had for God and heard wisdom come forth from his mouth on a daily basis, but I also knew his inability to communicate it to more than one family at a time. So every night I began laying my hand upon Jon and asking the Lord to anoint and equip him with the ability to articulate the wisdom God had given him. And to my delight, I now sit in church and listen to my husband teach our congregation, sometimes for two entire hours, as he articulates the passion and wisdom God has given him. God is certainly faithful!

Another example of God’s faithfulness to answer my prayers for my husband pertained to my greatest point of contention with Jon—his defensiveness when I came to him with something he had done wrong. As a matter of fact, he would have me in tears because he would turn everything around and blame me for the very thing that I was pointing out to him. Well, I don’t need to tell you how grievous this was because, after years of counseling with other couples, I have come to realize that most women have faced this same situation. However, I would have saved myself a lot of grief if I had turned this over to God in the beginning and prayed diligently for God to deal with Jon’s heart. For once I began praying to God and trusting in God for Jon’s deliverance from this sin, God started dealing with Jon and making him realize what an abomination this was to Him.

Ladies, how often have we cried and grieved over areas in our husbands’ lives that are out of God’s will, and yet we fail to help deliver our husbands out of their present bondage because we did not commit ourselves to pray for them?

We all need to earnestly examine our actions to continually ascertain if we are building up our house or tearing it down. Our worst trials are often our greatest blessings in disguise, while our darkest circumstances often prove to be God’s best for us, for adversity and obedience to God’s Word molds our character to be more like Christ’s. Do we blame our husbands for our unhappiness and pain? Let us instead examine our circumstances to see how God is using them to teach us lessons about obedience to Him and trust God to see how He is transforming us into vessels of holiness.

Our Living Example of Submission Is Jesus Christ

Not only does God tell us to be submissive, but also He lovingly shows us through His own Son’s example in John 17: “Jesus spoke these things; and lifting up His eyes to heaven, He said, ‘… I glorified You on the earth, having accomplished the work which You have given Me to do…. I have manifested Your name to the men whom You gave Me out of the world … Now they have come to know that everything You have given Me is from You; for the words which You gave Me I have given to them; and they received them and truly understood that I came forth from You, and they believed that You sent Me…. I have given them Your word … The glory which You have given Me I have given to them, that they may be one, just as We are one; I in them and You in Me, that they may be perfected in unity, so that the world may know that You sent Me … O righteous Father … I have made Your name known to them … so that the love with which You loved Me may be in them, and I in them.’”

“I can do nothing on My own initiative…. I do not seek My own will, but the will of Him who sent Me” (John 5:30). “For I have come down from heaven, not to do My own will, but the will of Him who sent Me” (John 6:38). “For I did not speak on My own initiative, but the Father Himself who sent Me has given Me a commandment as to what to say and what to speak” (John 12:49).

“Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others. Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus, who, although He existed in the form of God, did not regard equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied Himself, taking the form of a bond-servant, and being made in the likeness of men. Being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross. For this reason also, God highly exalted Him … So then, my beloved, just as you have always obeyed, not as in my presence only, but now much more in my absence, work out your salvation with fear and trembling; for it is God who is at work in you, both to will and to work for His good pleasure. Do all things without grumbling or disputing; so that you will prove yourselves to be blameless and innocent, children of God above reproach in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation, among whom you appear as lights in the world, holding fast the word of life, so that in the day of Christ I will have reason to glory because I did not run in vain nor toil in vain” (Phil. 2:3-16). Contrary to what the world would have us believe, love is not an emotion, but a commitment to sacrifice our own wills for the benefit of our spouse.

“And He went a little beyond them, and fell on His face and prayed, saying, ‘My Father, if it is possible, let this cup pass from Me; yet not as I will, but as You will.’ And He came to the disciples and found them sleeping, and said to Peter, ‘So, you men could not keep watch with Me for one hour? Keep watching and praying that you may not enter into temptation; the spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.’ He went away again a second time and prayed, saying, ‘My Father, if this cannot pass away unless I drink it, Your will be done’” (Matt. 26:39-42).

Hypothetically, Jesus, as a man, could have disobeyed God because He thought that God was wrong or because He thought He was being mean to Him, yet Jesus sacrificed His own will to do the will of His Father, to the point of dying on the cross for our sins—something we surely did not deserve. His obedience to His Father made it possible for us to be released from the power of sin over our own lives, that we may be empowered by His Holy Spirit to do His will. So we have the assurance that what comes unnaturally to us, God can perform in us supernaturally through His Holy Spirit. “Though the spirit is willing, my flesh is weak, Lord. But not my will, but Thine be done, Father.”

When we were first married, Jon would come home to find me ready to have some fun without giving any consideration to the physical demands of my husband’s kind of work. Yes, I had worked hard cleaning all day, washing, and cooking, but that was not like walking up and down ladders all day, walking up and down flights of stairs, crawling in ceilings, and carrying and pulling wire that weighed hundreds of pounds. I was looking out for my own desires and not looking out for my husband’s well being.

Do we, like Jesus, sacrifice ourselves for our husbands? Fixing our eyes on Jesus throughout our lives, daily taking up our cross, and being obedient to His will truly is the key to the kingdom of heaven, but also the key to true happiness.

“And so, as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved, put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience; bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, whoever has a complaint against anyone; just as the Lord forgave you, so also should you. And beyond all these things put on love, which is the perfect bond of unity. And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body; and be thankful. Let the word of Christ richly dwell within you, with all wisdom teaching and admonishing one another … And whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through Him to God the Father. Wives, be subject to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and do not be embittered against them. Children, be obedient to your parents in all things, for this is well-pleasing to the Lord. Fathers, do not exasperate your children, that they may not lose heart…. Whatever you do, do your work heartily, as for the Lord rather than for men; knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of the inheritance. It is the Lord Christ whom you serve. For he who does wrong will receive the consequences of the wrong which he has done, and that without partiality” (Col. 3:12-25).

“Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails” (1 Cor. 13:4-8).

Being His Helpmate

Being the high-energy, meticulous, organized person God gifted me to be, I would become so frustrated with Jon because it took him so much longer than I anticipated to get things organized and accomplished. Jon would start a project and then realize that he did not have all the materials to complete it, so he would have to stop and go to the hardware store. I would have cleaned the whole house and washed the clothes by the time he arrived home to begin once again, which caused a lot of frustration on my part. Why? Because I did not understand that I was to be Jon’s helpmate in these areas. He needed my help, not my condemnation. So instead of thinking, “If only Jon were like me, what a dynamite team we could be,” when I realized that God created me to be Jon’s helpmate in all areas of life, I was able to change. Therefore, instead of continually telling Jon that he just needed to think ahead and make lists, I, as his helpmate who has these qualities, was able to help him think of what he needed and help him make the list. God gives each of us gifts that He expects us to use to serve our husbands so that together we can serve Him more effectively.

On the other hand, God gifted Jon with the wisdom and ability to fix anything, so combined with my organizational skills, we are a great team because we work together. Only because we have become one, combining our gifts, are we able to get so much done.

God created us for our husbands, and it is for their welfare that we must focus our energies, being diligent to make their comfort, their success, and their happiness our top priority, which indeed benefits us as well.

Do you serve your husband? This past spring, we had some neighbors over for dinner. After I had made up Jon’s plate and served it to him, I then handed my neighbor a plate to do the same for her husband. She informed me that she had never served him and that he could get his own. In twenty-six years of marriage, I can honestly say that Jon has rarely ever had to serve himself. And on top of that, what I have served him has always been delicious, beautiful, and bountiful. Jon works hard to provide for our family, and, in turn, I work hard to provide him with delicious, pleasing meals. I also keep an orderly, clean, beautiful, and comfortable home for him where he can enjoy peace and comfort.

Do you discuss things of interest with your husband? Jon and I talk non-stop when we are together. I determine to be interested in everything he is interested in, and I go out of my way to find books and articles to read to him that would please him.

Have you become your husband’s favorite companion? Jon loves to read, discuss the Bible, hike, work outdoors, ride four wheelers … so I love to read, discuss the Bible, hike, work outdoors, and ride four wheelers. Whenever Jon goes anywhere, I go, too. He loves hardware stores, and so did I. When Jon mends fences, I am there to help him. When Jon cuts wood, I am there to help him. When Jon is building something, I hold the wood or the tools to make his job easier. When he works on our cars, I am there talking to him while his head is under the hood.

We should always be a great blessing to our husbands and their greatest source for happiness and comfort, greeting them with love when they arrive home, comforting them when in distress, encouraging them in their endeavors, and becoming their best friend and confidante.

As I wrote in my May/June 2004 article entitled “Preserving Our Heritage That the Word of God May Not Be Blasphemed”: “From the moment that Jon and I met we have done practically everything together. To share this life’s journey with such a kind and wise husband, who has become my most cherished friend and devoted companion, is the most comforting joy God could give me. And as we share each other’s thoughts, enjoy the same activities, share the same vision, and work together for God’s kingdom, I continually pour out my thanksgiving to the Father who provided so lovingly for me.”

Ladies, think of how wonderful it is to be able to grow old with the man of your youth with whom you share so many joys and sorrows, so many deep thoughts, and so many memories. The man whom I once thought was so different from me has become the only one whom I feel most like. We think alike and act as one. Marriage truly is the sweet fulfillment of our lives.

Though we are weak, God is strong, and though we are faithless, God is faithful. Let us continue to devote ourselves whole-heartedly to our husbands and reap the fruit of a marriage made in heaven.

“An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil all the days of her life” (Prov. 31:10-12).