Discipling Our Sons and Daughters PDF Print E-mail
Covenantal Families

      One of the most important lessons we should impart to our sons and daughters is how to manage their time. Since Sonia and I are now taking care of my parents two full days each week, it is absolutely necessary for me to organize my diminished time efficiently. Allow me to give an example of one of our weeks.
      My first priority on Monday was making certain that Jon’s sermon was typed and ready for him to study. The next most important task was cooking for the boys for the two days we are gone, which includes both lunches and dinners. So I spent all day Monday working on Jon’s sermon. On Monday afternoon, I had Sonia gather two packages of cubed steaks, five pounds of ground beef, two pounds of stew meat, and a rump roast from the freezer, which I let sit out on a cookie sheet for several hours to thaw and then placed these in the refrigerator. Sonia started on the week’s wash and ordered DVDs for my parents. We both worked on preparing our dinner and dessert. After dinner, we worked some more and then played games and read. (Except for Jon helping Josiah with math between each lawn job, our schooling was done at night, when we read the Bible, theology and history books.) When everyone went to bed, I worked on the newsletter.
      On Tuesday morning, I dredged the cubed steaks in seasoned flour and began browning in batches. After each batch was done, I removed them to a 13x9 pan and replaced with more cubed steaks until all were brown. Then I browned onions, which I placed over the cubed steaks. While this was browning, I started my meatloaf. After all the cubed steaks were browned, in that same Dutch oven, I browned stew meat for Tex Mex Chili.
      The boys always call ahead to let me know when they will be home for lunch. I had an hour, so I divided the leftover pork shoulder into three portions. For their lunch that day, I cut up some of the pork and added it to the leftover wild rice with some drippings for gravy. I then chopped up the second portion to be added to beans for a dinner for them. The third portion I shredded, scraped the drippings off the bottom, added some hot water to soak for a few minutes and then stirred in barbecue sauce. When this was all mixed, I placed it into the oven to cook at 350º for an hour so it would be completely ready for one of the boys’ lunches that week.
      While I was heating up their lunch, I prepared a pot of navy beans for one of their dinners and then finished the Tex Mex Chili. After lunch, I finished the three meatloaves. Then I removed the barbecue and the cubed steak from the oven and replaced it with the roaster of meatloaves.
      While all this was going on, Sonia was working on our websites and learning how to put on the Spelling Bee registration form. When I was done in the kitchen, I traded places with Sonia so she could make bread and a few desserts while I finished Jon’s lesson. During the cooking, Sonia was also busy getting all of our laundry done for the week.
      Later, we joined together to gather recipes for the shower we were giving for a friend. Sonia then checked to see what supplies we needed. From there we made out our grocery list. Afterwards, we checked the bridal registry to see if there was anything we wanted to purchase and made out a list of stores we needed to visit. We then gathered the decorations for the shower—twinkle lights, tulle, silk flowers, silver trays, tea lights, sugar cubes, teabags... Afterwards, we prepared dinner and dessert. After dinner we played games and read. Then I worked on the newsletter and weblog.
      On Wednesday, I took care of the Father/Son paperwork and phone calls to the Lodge. I then worked on other CHEF details. Afterwards, I polished the silver while Sonia air fluffed tulle. Next we cleaned the house so it looked nice for the boys while we were gone. Later, Sonia did the business’s book work while I endorsed and recorded the business’s checks, paid our bills, paid my parents’ bills, and then transferred monies into our account for our shopping expenses. Sonia then worked on emails and the website while I prepared our dinner and dessert. After dinner, we played games and read. After everyone was in bed, I worked on the newsletter and weblog.
      Before we arrived at my parents’ home on Thursday, we deposited checks at the bank, shopped at two stores for shower and wedding gifts, and picked up the DVDs Sonia ordered for my parents. After we arrived at my parents’ home, we cleaned, cooked, and did their laundry. We later shopped at six more stores.
      On the way to my parents’ house on Friday, we picked up hair coloring for my mom, groceries, and then their prescriptions at the pharmacy. That day we bathed my mother, cut and dyed her hair, massaged each of my parents with lotion, prepared their meals, and decorated their house. We left at seven p.m. and headed for more stores. From seven thirty until nine thirty, we shopped at five more stores. When we arrived home, we showed the boys everything that we purchased. Afterwards, we washed the dishes and cleaned up the kitchen, played games and read. Then Sonia worked on the websites. After she was done, I worked on the newsletter.
      In addition to taking care of all of our customers, the boys also go to my parents’ house once a week to bathe, shave, and massage my father and take care of their yard, so they, too, must manage their time efficiently.
      All fathers and mothers have a multitude of tasks to accomplish each day, yet often children are totally inept at running their own homes because their parents failed to teach them how to prioritize and how to use their time efficiently, which is not only essential for daughters in managing their own homes, but also for sons in managing their business and families. These lessons should begin as soon as our children can talk, and they should continue throughout each day as we walk with our sons and daughters when we rise up, when we lie down, and when we walk along the way. We must show our children how to prioritize, tell them the reasons for our daily choices, let them see our lists, encourage them to make their own and give them plenty of practice by enumerating each week’s tasks and allowing them to prioritize the order of completion. More than anyone else, homeschoolers should be producing the best managers in the world. Let us encourage one another to be faithful to our calling.