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MULTIGENERATIONAL FAMILY BUSINESS, Part III

 

Our 500-page book on the family covenant is finally finished. Actually half of the book, which is devoted to family business, has been done for a long time, but since family business is just one component of the covenant, it is necessary to lay a firm foundation of the other components prior to beginning a business because without a clear understanding of the family covenant, and without laying a firm foundation based on that covenant, your business is doomed to fail, perhaps not in your lifetime, but most certainly by the second or third generation. For “unless the Lord builds the house, they labor in vain that build it.” Psalm 127:1

 

This has been our impetus for getting the book done now. Unfortunately, the editing and rewrites will not be finished before the conference. Therefore, we will continue to place excerpts from our book in the upcoming newsletters in hopes that it will help you lay that foundation.

 

THIS IS THE INTRODUCTION TO OUR BOOK

 

Before God drew His people out of Egypt, they had to fully understand their depravity, their servile bondage to sin, the character of their harsh taskmaster, and their inability to save themselves apart from God’s merciful grace. Similarly, before the life saving antidote can be applied to our own family’s infirmity, we must realize the deadliness of our condition and the need for God’s grace to restore His perfect state of covenant.

 

Granted, since you are reading this book, you probably are not totally immersed in the world’s system of rebellious independence, but vestiges of the affliction probably exist nonetheless, as most families are not totally immune to the continual wiles of the prevailing culture’s peer pressure. Therefore, let us begin by encouraging you to carefully examine the present condition of your family by asking the following questions. Keep in mind as you consider your answers that evil times require drastic measures!

 

If given a choice of any activity, what would your children choose, and with whom would they desire to share the experience? Are they content to stay at home without visiting with their friends? Are you, your wife, and their siblings their primary source of happiness and contentment, or are you nothing more than chauffeurs? If the latter, remember that God says that we are to walk with our children, not drive them to their activities.

 

Continuing in this vein of thought, ask yourself if your home is primarily empty or occupied? Are you guilty of programming your children to think that the world revolves around them? Is their education more about academics or about discipleship?

 

Instead of inculcating their children’s minds with the Word of God and spending their time working together as a family, parents often shape their children into idols and then pander to the ravenous egos they created by feeding their exorbitant appetites with artificial stimulation and superficial relationships, relegating the home’s divinity to nothing more than boarding houses. Yet to satisfy self is the vanity of life, making it pointless, ineffectual, futile, and empty. Though tragic, this glaring rebellion to God’s design for families is reaping immensely serious consequences, the likes of which our generation has never seen.

 

Unfortunately, many of our families have fallen into this mindset because of their church’s focus on the individual rather than the covenanted family, resulting in activity-driven programs that segregate children from their parents. Regrettably, children accustomed to continuous age segregated activities are only content when involved in activities with children near their own age. Thus, periods of inaction, with no place to go, naturally cause great discontentment for those who have become dependent on others and a whirlwind of activity for their happiness. Even sadder still is that many parents rendered their own children incapable of appreciating and enjoying the wonderful relationship God intended for them to have with their parents, their siblings, and ultimately with Him.

 

To illustrate the vast implications of this deceivingly subtle takeover of sound reason, a young convert to home education nearly walked out of her first conference because she thought it was teaching blasphemy. Ironically, what the conference was teaching was according to God’s Word, for it centered on covenant, family, discipleship, and home. Yet she had been so unaccustomed to hearing truth she thought it was a lie, and not only a lie, but one also diabolically opposed to the doctrine of individualism, which her church had propounded throughout her life.

 

So how often does your pastor speak on the importance of the family and home? How often does he encourage family solidarity by exhorting fathers to disciple their children, wives to be keepers at home, children to be about their father’s business? Does he consistently teach on family covenant? What a revelation this is to those who have never considered the far reaching implications of this negligent void!

 

God Places Children with Parents

 

Think about it for a moment. God forms us in our mother’s womb, and then places each of us in a specific family, whose members all share the same parents, the same name, the same home, a common DNA, a common heritage, a common culture, similar personalities, common goals, common foes, common interests, common experiences and an affection for each other peculiar only to them. Yet, in spite of this miraculous design, segregation of these divinely connected members by schools, learning centers, liberal arts centers, and churches reduces the function of the family unit to the lowest common denominator of strangers lodging together in the same structure.

 

What other end could we expect from those completely devoid of a unified purpose and commitment, but a covey of quail who spread in all directions in accordance with the pattern parents set in their formative years, where friends and other strangers take precedence over the parents and siblings God gave them?

 

Carefully consider the fact that God predisposes children to favor their parents in affection and admiration, in instruction and dependence, giving parents a tremendous advantage for impacting their children, and subsequent generations, if they keep their children by their side, at home, as God commanded. If, however, children are constantly bombarded with outside stimuli by a multitude of other people, the parental influence is no longer singular or superior, but of little consequence.

 

So are you devoted to God’s superior design? Do not fool yourself—a family is not a body of members brought together by birth who spend the remainder of their days running in different directions. Although the deluge of propaganda has coerced some to think that incessant activity is normal, it is not! It is absurd and self-destructive! This becomes apparent in the light of scripture and in the face of the vast amount of problems we witness daily in our own country due to this new phenomena. In truth, afamily is actually one that lives, worships, and works together for their common good.

 

Conversely, surrendered souls to a humanistic religion that allows no other allegiance but to self are incompatible with the family structure. Throughout God’s Word and His history, God clearly demonstrates that churches and nations are firmly planted on the foundation of families. Thus, we can see the goal of that counterfeit savior who aims to destroy the family by isolating the individual from his family and from his home, fracturing home life by enticements of self-interest found only in formalized institutions and organizations.

 

Do You Keep a Home or a Boarding House?

 

As we would expect, there is a vast difference between a home and a boarding house. One is warm and cozy, orderly, beautiful, inviting, comfortable, and relaxing where books are read and discussed, where wonderful conversations are shared over lovely meals, where children work and play alongside their parents throughout their waking hours, where backs are rubbed and prayers are shared, while biblical instruction and application is imparted throughout the day. A boarding house, on the other hand, is nothing more than a base for dressing, hurried meals, and sleeping— more like a motel that everyone is running away from—not running to. Is your home really a home or just a boarding house? Does most of your living take place there or somewhere else? Is home where your heart is?

 

After a November support group meeting where Candy expounded on all of our family’s Christmas traditions, a mother of young children came up to her to share how much she appreciated all the ideas Candy had shared because she had always dreamed of holidays like those described. It all sounded so wonderful, yet she had no time to do any of those things for her family. Candy felt terrible about her dilemma but could not imagine what responsibility kept her from enjoying the holidays with her family. Surprisingly, her inquiry led to the awful truth that the mother was so preoccupied with her daughter’s learning center’s Christmas production, she did not have time to do anything special for her family. Not only that, but the long evenings of practices and rehearsals left the entire family frazzled and weary. So much for holiday cheer! But beyond even this, the most disturbing aspect of the discussion was this mother’s fixed mindset that she did not possess the power to change the direction of her family, even though she truly desired a different lifestyle and longed for the kind of home God ordained. This is the detrimental influence peer pressure exerts!

 

It Takes a Village to Educate a Child

 

Why do parents think that their children need other children when God says that foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child? Why would parents desire for their children to have a multitude of “friends” when God says that a man of many friends comes to ruin? Why would parents give their children to someone else to instruct when God placed those children with them to instruct? It is quite audacious for strangers to think that parents need help educating their own children, but even more preposterous and grievous is parents’ complicity in the entire affair. It is somewhat similar to bringing concubines into the home to increase the family fold. And in light of this thought, consider how Solomon’s foreign wives turned his heart from God. Do these parents think that passing their children around from one teacher to the next is any less harmful?

 

Homeschoolers may abhor Hillary Clinton’s philosophy, yet an ever-increasing number of them are living out the reality of Hillary’s dream that it takes a village to raise a child. Instead of leading our children home to become leaders and keepers of their homes, parents are setting their posterity on the path of ruin and damnation.

 

So let us stop for a moment to further consider the frightening reality that we will soon be standing before God to give an account of how well we performed as stewards of God’s most valuable possessions. In accordance to this reality, we must ask ourselves if we are one of those families that allow others to train our children, or are we like John the Baptist’s parents, “both righteous in the sight of God, walking blamelessly in all the commandments and requirements of the Lord” (Luke 1:6)? Will we be a part of those who are “…blameless and innocent, children of God above reproach in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation, among whom you appear as lights in the world, holding fast the word of life…” (Philippians 2:15,16)?

 

Of course, there will always be those Esaus who bring grief to their parents regardless of their godly training, for fathers and mothers can no more save their children than the government can save its people, as all are at enmity with God and drawn to the world with all its vices until regenerated with God’s saving grace. However, as stewards of God’s covenant, we will stand before God to give an account of our faithfulness or lack thereof; for whether we realize it or not, everything we say and everything we do is leading our children somewhere—either to God or away from Him.

 

God says, “He who walks with wise men will be wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.” Proverbs 13:20 “The lips of the wise spread knowledge, but the hearts of fools are not so.” Proverbs 15:7 “The mind of the intelligent seeks knowledge, but the mouth of fools feeds on folly.” Proverbs 15:14 “Leave the presence of a fool, or you will not discern words of knowledge.” Proverbs 14:7 In short, the wise builds their house while the foolish tears it down with their own hands. Proverbs 14:1

 

Throughout time, parents have passed their beliefs, values, doctrine, and morality on to their children, and those children to their children. As families shape the destiny of nations, we must ask ourselves where our nation will be in 25 years if it continues on its perilous course. Let’s face the stark reality that we will all soon be dead and forever silent, so what needs accomplishing must be done speedily! As eternal creatures, our lives ultimately lay the foundation for future generations. Considering the vast importance of this role, we must remember above all else that our children are eternal creatures who will either be forever with God or forever apart from God.

 

“Remember also your Creator in the days of your youth, before the evil days come and the years draw near when you will say, ‘I have no delight in them’; … The conclusion, when all has been heard is: fear God and keep His commandments, because this applies to every person. For God will bring every act to judgment, everything which is hidden, whether it is good or evil.” Ecclesiastes 12:1,13,14

 

Seeing that God’s Word clearly shows that parents are divinely appointed to disciple their children, let us encourage you once again to examine your course. Are you raising your children for God’s throne room or the world’s playroom? Are you preparing your children for their noble station in the King’s court, or are you bending their necks toward the world?

 

“For I have chosen him, so that he may command his children and his household after him to keep the way of the LORD by doing righteousness and justice…” Genesis 18:19

 

“Hear, O Israel! The LORD is our God; the LORD is one! You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. These words, which I am commanding you today, shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your sons and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you rise up. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand and they shall be as frontals on your forehead. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.” Deuteronomy 6:4-9

 

“Listen, O my people, to my instruction; incline your ears to the words of my mouth. I will open my mouth…For He established a testimony in Jacob and appointed a law in Israel, which He commanded our fathers that they should teach them to their children, that the generation to come might know, even the children yet to be born, that they may arise and tell them to their children, that they should put their confidence in God and not forget the works of God, but keep His commandments, and not be like their fathers, a stubborn and rebellious generation, a generation that did not prepare its heart and whose spirit was not faithful to God.” Psalm 78:1,2,5-8

 

“My servant Caleb, because he has had a different spirit and has followed Me fully, I will bring into the land which he entered, and his descendants shall take possession of it.” Numbers 14:24

 

A Singular Path

 

A frenzied whirlwind of activity is not a virtue; it is a hideous vice—an enemy to eternity! And since it is our duty to be sanctified (set apart for God), we are not to look like the world or even slightly resemble it. We are to be a peculiar people set apart for the Lord. Therefore, a stark difference should be evident between the world and us, between its goals and subsequent activities and ours.

 

We cannot lead if we are following. We cannot bring others to the cross if we are taking the same path to destruction as the world. Repentance by its very definition means to turn from sin and toward God—from the world and its vanities—to God. It is clearly impossible to lead someone in the right direction if headed in the wrong one. Therefore, only the deluded think that they can live like the world and still lead others to Christ.

 

Home education is not about choices; it is about educating at home. “Home” being the key word. It is not a generic term encompassing some home, some learning centers, some sports, some of everything. It is home and schooling at home—period! How pathetic that we need to make a concerted effort to place “home” back into homeschooling so we can legitimately call ourselves homeschoolers.

 

Be honest! We cannot call ourselves Christians and live like the world because even the world calls those people hypocrites. And you know what? The world can spot a hypocrite a mile away, so why can’t we? God calls them liars and is going to vomit them out of His mouth. Let us reiterate: we cannot call ourselves Christians and live like the world any more than we can call ourselves homeschoolers and do schooling away from home. It is lying all the same.

 

So let us be true to what we call ourselves, both as Christians and homeschoolers. Let us take our duty seriously. Let us stop justifying our sinful actions by placing the blame on our children that they need socialization and, instead, shoulder the blame by taking full responsibility for our actions. Because if the truth were known, most of us just do not trust God to provide everything that we need, but, instead, place our trust in others to make our children a success in the world’s eyes because we fear man more than God.

 

Lest we further deceive ourselves, all choices do not constitute homeschooling any more than all roads lead to God. It is a singular path, a narrow road far less traveled—a road of responsibility, commitment, trust, faith, and contentment.

 

To ascertain the condition of your own family, it often helps to set aside a month for calculation of the time you spent at home; away from home; spent with the family; with others away from the family; in the Word; imparting God’s truth to your children; studying and discussing history; preparing your children for becoming godly fathers and mothers; serving your family; and how much time you spent on the computer. While recording these activities, place an asterisk by those things you most enjoyed and two asterisks by those that were according to God’s Word.

 

Do You Love Your Calling?

 

Several years ago, as Candy sat encouraging a mother to remain steadfast in her decision to keep her child at home with her instead of running him around to learning centers and weekly activities, another mother (who was obviously quite peeved with her counsel) very emphatically interjected her approval of learning centers by sharing that she would have gone crazy at home had she not gotten involved in her local learning center.

 

How sad! How incredibly sad! This mother would have gone crazy because she did not have an outlet away from her home and her children because at this learning center, she was able to spend time with her peers without the distraction of her little ones.

 

She then proceeded to assure Candy and this mother that her learning center was an excellent learning center. Yet this mother’s children were extremely rude, disrespectful children. Following that discussion, several other mothers have shared that they removed their children from that very “excellent” learning center because of the effect the other unruly and disrespectful children were having on their children.

 

Shortly thereafter, another homeschooling mom who Candy was counseling to refrain from pursuing a career outside her home and subsequent placement of her children in a learning center finally divulged the impetus for this sudden change in course when she said, “Quite frankly, Candy, I would be bored to stay at home all day.”

 

And where, may I ask, are the fathers in these love affairs with the world? More than likely, unobtrusively away from home working their way towards full retirement so they can enjoy their golden years in peace, satisfied that they fulfilled their perception of their duty. After all they provided a comfortable living for their families and gave their approval of their wives’ desires. They said yes to homeschooling, and then yes to learning centers, and then yes to employment away from home. Yet it is a grievous sin to give over our holy mission to someone else and a grievous sin to immerse our most valuable possession in worldly activities while neglecting the fellowship of our own household.

 

Please listen carefully. Attending to our children reflects the holiest service of worship that we can offer God, for family is a divine institution, which God created for preparation of eternity. Our duty to this mission then is of the greatest import, for our lives are living epistles that offer others either a foretaste of heaven or a foretaste of hell. If we, however, labor at our own pursuits instead of His, we labor in vain. In vain is to live without purpose, with no meaning, to waste one’s time for nothing, to be worthless—these immeasurable consequences call for careful consideration; therefore, consider carefully if your life’s work is pleasing to God, or if your life is being spent in vain—like pouring sand in a sieve or having everything we have labored for burned up in the end. That would truly be catastrophic!

 

Whom do we serve, God or Satan? There is no dual employment here because if we are not serving God, then we are most certainly serving Satan. So who is our master? This can be easily ascertained by examining how we spend our time. Are we living our lives in such a way that our children see our obedience to God through witnessing our service to them as committed managers of our homes? Are we giving Him our best, our first, our all, or are we hypocrites talking the talk without walking the walk? For God says that “He who is not with Me is against Me; and he who does not gather with Me, scatters.” Luke 11:23

 

Are we blaspheming the Word of God? Are we like those Isaiah prophesied about who honor God with their lips but whose hearts are far from Him? “This people honors Me with their lips, but their heart is far away from Me. But in vain do they worship Me, teaching as doctrines the precepts of men.” Matthew 15:8,9

 

Is our service of worship blemished and spoiled because others get the best we have to offer? “‘But when you present the blind for sacrifice, is it not evil? And when you present the lame and sick, is it not evil? Why not offer it to your governor? Would he be pleased with you? Or would he receive you kindly?’ says the LORD of hosts.” Malachi 1:8

 

Do we worship God in vain? Do we invalidate the Word of God by living according to our way of thinking instead of living as God commanded? When we call ourselves “Christian,” do we seriously consider that we are saying that we are like Christ? How did Christ spend His time? Actually, when He was not teaching His Father’s Word, He was in communion with Him. Is our time emulating Christ’s time spent on earth? If not, let us cast aside all useless preoccupations and determine to use our time wisely, so as to represent Him faithfully. But we cannot discover our duty to our Sovereign unless we apply ourselves to searching out His mind presented forth in Holy Writ. Indeed, it is our manifest duty to search the scriptures, diligently applying ourselves with all our hearts, minds, and strength, not only to reading and meditating on it, but to applying it to every facet of our lives. If we spend time reading and listening to expositions on the Word, but do not put it into practice in all that we do, we become like the man who forgets what he looks like once he turns from his looking glass. The genuine Christian, on the other hand, not only hears Christ’s Words, but also lives by them.

 

Planning for Our Family’s Destination

 

Before launching on a long trip, most of us prudently research our destination, map out our path, and examine our vehicles to make certain that they are prepared for the journey, and when necessary, make the proper repairs and adjustments to assure the safe arrival of our families to the planned destination. Yet how ironic that we spend so much time preparing for a trip that lasts but a moment in time when compared to how negligently we attend to the well-being of our family’s destination, which is unalterable once they pass on into eternity. In light of eternity, then, what are we doing to prepare our family?

 

Candy and I are constantly reminding our children that every single thing that they do is either righteous or unrighteous, prudent or imprudent, valuable or worthless, followed by a loving exhortation to make the most of their fleeting time on this earth. Again, it is most certainly true that we do not possess the power to save our own children, but God has certainly charged us with the duty to lead our children on the path of righteousness. Equally true is that there will be those who do not continue to follow our course, but our responsibility remains the same, regardless of the outcome.

 

“Jesus answered and said to him, ‘If anyone loves Me, he will keep My word; and My Father will love him, and We will come to him, and make Our abode with him. He who does not love Me does not keep My words; and the word which you hear is not Mine, but the Father’s who sent Me.’” John 14:23,24

 

Since we are also told that we will be engaged in constant spiritual warfare, as soldiers of the Cross, it is our duty to set our sights on our heavenly Commander-in-Chief who provides the only way for victory. And as any soldier knows, without a vision, our destiny is sealed because wandering aimlessly on the battlefield makes destruction eminent. So what’s the battle plan for victory?

 

“Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he.” Proverbs 29:18 “The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge; fools despise wisdom and instruction.” Proverbs 1:7 “Let us examine and probe our ways, and let us return to the LORD.” Lamentations 3:40 “I considered my ways, and turned my feet to Your testimonies. I hastened and did not delay to keep Your commandments.” Psalm 119:59,60

 

Before we make resolutions, each of us must examine our own lives in relation to our families to ascertain what resolutions are necessary to keep us on course. Where are our families, and how are they spending their time? In what pastures are their minds grazing, and from which watering holes are they drinking? Are we protecting our families from the influences of this world? Are we spending time each day leading our children into the green pasture of God’s Word and to the river of living water?

 

Are we spending most of our time together as a family, or are peers and other adults influencing our children more than we are? Are we making the most of our time to glorify God and to serve Him through taking dominion through our families? Are we building up our own family dynasty or someone else’s?

 

Whom Do You Follow?

 

Relationships wield a lot of power over our minds and actions; thus, it is imperative that we examine this area of our lives as well. So let us ask ourselves: Are our relationships outside our family honoring God? Can we concur with David that all our companions fear God and keep His Word? Psalm 119:63

 

To reinforce this point, let me share that each of our relationships should be one of discipling, being discipled, or a combination thereof as iron sharpening iron. In light of this, we must ask ourselves these questions: Are our friends directing us to walk closer with the Lord? Are our friends daily exhorting and encouraging us to sacrifice our selfish desires so as to serve God and our families? Are they pointing us toward our homes and toward our biblical responsibility of being leaders of our families and keepers of our homes, or are they constantly encouraging us to do more and more away from our homes? For Amos 3:3 (KJV) rightly asks, “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?”

 

Furthermore, are our children’s friends leading them to be obedient to us or into foolishness? In view of the fact that foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child, it is far better for our children to be around us than it is for them to be in the company of other fools.

 

On the other hand, these truths apply to us as well. Can our friends say that we fear God and keep His Word? If we truly believe that every moment of our lives belongs to our Savior, then every moment with others should be in some way advancing His kingdom. So are we fulfilling our responsibility to others? Are we impacting those around us with God’s own Words even though it may not be politically expedient? Or are we ashamed of the Gospel?

 

By God’s grace, our lives should demonstrate God’s Spirit and power “so that your faith should not rest on the wisdom of men, but on the power of God.” 1 Corinthians 2:5

 

“Therefore be careful how you walk, not as unwise men, but as wise, making the most of your time, because the days are evil. So then do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is.” Ephesians 5:15-17 “…be filled with the knowledge of His will in all spiritual wisdom and understanding, so that you may walk in a manner worthy of the Lord, to please Him in all respects, bearing fruit in every good work and increasing in the knowledge of God.” Colossians 1:9,10

 

Finally, we must ask ourselves if we are training our children to lead or to follow; to be God-dependent or peer-dependent; Christ-conscious or self-conscious; to serve or be served; to be a working member of our family or selfish pigs who demand entertainment?

 

Towards this end, do all our activities benefit the entire family or particular individuals within the family? Are our activities of eternal value? Are they preparing our sons and daughters for covenantal families?

 

In essence, if we died today, would we be satisfied with how we spent our time? Would our sons and daughters be prepared for their roles as fathers and mothers? Would our household economy prepare them to continue to provide for the rest of the family?

 

In conclusion, since God requires an exact account of every precious moment He allots us, let us thoroughly evaluate how we spend each of our waking moments. For we do not want to wait until we stand before the Lord to be told that we have been unrighteous stewards. “For He who is faithful in little things is faithful also in much; and he who is unrighteous in little things is unrighteous also in much.” Luke 16:1-13

 

A Message of Hope

 

Recently a woman from our church excitedly expressed her joy to us because of the continual emphasis Candy and I place on families as God’s strategy for transforming culture. She then went on to let us know that she finally realized why her former church was so unsuccessful in its outreach to the community. Apparently, although they genuinely sought to reach the lost, they had not followed God’s strategy for taking dominion of the culture through strengthening their families, but instead placed their trust in church programs, which in turn continually segregated and weakened their own families, until every one of them lost their own children, and in some cases, their spouses, in the process.

 

Our culture’s degeneration into the abysmal depth of depravity clearly reveals the breach in the covenant our forefathers adhered to for nearly two hundred years. It also reveals our generation’s lack of understanding of the solemnity and significance of God’s covenant with Abraham and the subsequent American covenant. In fact, churches continue to plunge deeper and deeper into paganism as they propagate polytheism by propounding the antithesis they perceive between the harsh god of the Old Testament with the “luving” god of the New. But as Rousas John Rushdoony says, “The alternative to law is not grace but lawlessness. There can be no arbitrary separation of the law from the gospel: one God means one word. To divide the word is to deny God.”

 

As a result of their rejection of the Bible’s foundation, churches miss the design and purpose for the family, so while they grope in the darkness to give direction to a fallen world, the heathen continue to sacrifice their unborn children, which in fact is the imminent result of rejecting God’s paradigm for the family. Yet the church abets the enemy’s illegal trafficking of stolen goods by charging young people with the task of leading the way, when they know nothing about God’s covenant for biblical family.

 

To transform our culture for the glory of God, we must turn back to the covenant because it is our only hope for the future. That is why we are specifically emphasizing the importance of multi-generational covenantal faithfulness—for the family is God’s strategy for victory, the very heart and soul of His covenant, the key to life, and the core to the Gospel. It is what forged Christian civilizations and the bedrock on which they rest. And it is only our fidelity to God’s covenant that can alter our perilous course.

 

Consider God’s Great Love for Us and the Plans He Has for Us

 

Yet in spite of the casualties, when we consider our past, and that of most homeschooling fathers and mothers, we marvel at God’s awesome plan and gratefully acknowledge His mercy in calling us and drawing us, in imparting a vision and enabling us to fulfill His will. For even though most of us were not raised in homes that were conformed to God’s Word, whose parents had no understanding of discipleship, who in many cases had fathers who did not know how to lead and mothers who worked outside their homes, who sent us to public schools that filled our brains with all that was antithetical to God’s Word—God raised us up to reclaim His plan for redemption—to turn the hearts of the fathers back to the children and the children back to the fathers to prepare a people for the Lord and repossess the land for His glory!

 

Though headed down the path of destruction like the rest of the world, God mercifully lifted us up and set us on the course to life. “‘For I know the plans that I have for you,’ declares the LORD, ‘plans for welfare and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope.’” Jeremiah 29:11

 

“For I am confident of this very thing, that He who began a good work in you will perfect it until the day of Christ Jesus.” Philippians 1:6

 

“Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly beyond all that we ask or think, according to the power that works within us, to Him be the glory…to all generations, forever and ever.” Ephesians 3:20,21

 

Our Exodus from Paganism and Slavery

 

As I have been preaching each Sunday on the Hebrews’ Exodus from Egypt, I am continually reminded of God’s profound faithfulness to my family, and to those of other CHEF families, for bringing us out of the land of paganism and out of the house of bondage from our sinful past.

 

Indeed, I personally spent the first half of my life in abject slavery to sin as a wicked, rebellious young man. Oh, I did good deeds from time to time, but in truth, just as the scripture states, my kindest acts were cruel because they were done with selfish motives. In fact, I was so enslaved to my self-centeredness, and so completely fettered by the bonds of my sin, that not only was I totally incapable of saving myself, but also I did not even possess enough sense to know that I needed to be saved, that is, until God broke those chains and redeemed me with His precious blood.

 

This is why I continually impart to my children God’s miraculous deliverance of my soul from slavery and death, and why I continually impart to our families, particularly fathers, the vast importance of teaching their children the Word of God and His providence throughout history because it is history that teaches us to hope.

 

As heirs with Abraham, God has chosen us to command our children, and our children’s children, to keep the way of the LORD by doing righteousness and justice, so that He may bring the blessings of the covenant that He promised to Abraham and his seed to a thousand generations.

 

I don’t know about you, but that is what Candy and I want for our children and what we work for daily. And because of this covenant, we know that our desire will not be buried with us, but will continue in the hearts of our children’s children, all because of the covenant that God made with our father Abraham.

 

“And I will establish my covenant between me and thee and thy seed after thee in their generations for an everlasting covenant, to be a God unto thee, and to thy seed after thee.” Genesis 17:7

 

“You shall tell your son… ‘It is because of what the LORD did for me when I came out of Egypt.’ And it shall serve as a sign to you on your hand, and as a reminder on your forehead, that the law of the LORD may be in your mouth; for with a powerful hand the LORD brought you out of Egypt.” Exodus 13:8-10

 

“These words, which I am commanding you today, shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your sons and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you rise up.” Deuteronomy 6:6,7

 

“Give ear, O my people, to my law: incline your ears to the words of my mouth. I will open my mouth in a parable: I will utter sayings of old: which we have heard and known, and our fathers have told us. We will not hide them from their children, shewing to the generation to come the praises of the LORD, and his strength, and his wonderful works that he hath done. For he established a testimony in Jacob, and appointed a law in Israel, which he commanded our fathers, that they should make known to their children; that the generation to come might know them, even the children which should be born; who should arise and declare them to their children: that they might set their hope in God, and not forget the works of God, but keep his commandments.” Psalm 78:1-7

 

“He hath remembered His covenant forever, and the word which He commanded to a thousand generations.” Psalm 105:8

 

In the final analysis, God is taking back what rightfully belongs to Him. He is reconciling those of His who are in the world (Egypt) to Himself. He is turning the hearts of the fathers back to their children and the hearts of the children back to their fathers. And this is the blessing of the covenant, and this is what will turn our country back from destruction.

 

In accordance with His Word, then, instead of sending our children out like quail to be picked off one by one, God is drawing families back to Him, as one body, as one phalanx, to become mighty nations under His sovereign control. For multiple generations of families walking in covenant with God by faithfully executing their covenantal duty to disciple their children in the Word and Way of the LORD is absolutely the most powerful force on earth!

 

America was the freest and most prosperous nation the world had ever known because of our forefathers’ family covenantal faithfulness, which God wrought through His divine power working through them. So if you are discouraged with the increasing wickedness of our culture, be encouraged by what God is doing through His families as you learn the importance and blessings of covenantal faithfulness.

 

Multigenerational, covenant-keeping families are what this book is all about and what our family prays for all the time. For we have been raised up for such a time as this!

 

“Conduct yourself worthy of the gospel…that ye stand fast in one spirit, with one mind, striving together for the faith of the gospel.” Philippians 1:27

 

Homeschoolers’ Disconnect-Family Solidarity and Economy

 

While some homeschooling parents are fully complicit in their rejection of the family covenant, others unknowingly follow the present cultural norm without realizing that they have disconnected themselves from God’s purpose. Interestingly, though, as the next generation moves off to do their own thing, many parents are expressing their dissatisfaction with the results of their efforts, even though they are reaping what they sowed. The fact is, they did not fully realize what their sowing would bring, but after spending so much time with their children, they end up feeling totally empty and bewildered as to what their purpose should be now that their primary occupation has ceased.

 

Years ago we read a very sad letter that looked at this disturbing quandary from the other side, by a man lamenting his departure from his family, his home, and his father’s business to pursue a job working for another man. After years of investing in this stranger’s company, he realized that he had missed out on spending the best years of his life with his other family members who had remained working together for their father’s construction company. Sadly, not only had he missed out on this fellowship, but more importantly, he had set his children on a course that led them away from the biblical paradigm of family covenant. Naturally, they, too, left their family to pursue careers a long way from home.

 

To change this destructive course of missing out on life’s most valuable asset by investing all your time, labor, and monies in another man’s family dynasty, we desire to equip you to enrich your own life, and benefit your own posterity, by spending your time building your own family dynasty where you have the time to forge intimate relationships with God and with one another. Where eating, reading, studying, worshipping, working, playing, fellowshipping, and ministering are all done together. Where you set your own goals, your own schedule, and your own hours. Where you love what you do because you have chosen what you love with those you love best. Where no limits are placed on success, other than how hard you are willing to work. Where you are building your own family’s wealth and legacy by using your gifts and talents to work for your family. Where you all forge ahead with the same vision, the same purpose, same goals, as you work together to transform the culture for God’s glory.

 

This is our family’s hope and prayer for your family! For you are “a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for His own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of Him who called you out of darkness into His marvelous light.” 1 Peter 2:9